Life Lesson 3 -
Finding Your Purpose!
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Many of us go through our entire lives, and never find our true purpose. Sadly, a life with no purpose can feel like a wasted and lonely existence. Like a successful company, our lives should have a mission statement which summarizes the most important, singular goal we desire to achieve.
This can be hard to nail down, especially when you are young and still figuring out what you love to do. If you could roll the thing you wanted your life to be into one or two sentences, what would it be?
A few questions you can might yourself are:
Once you are able to answer these questions, a personal life mission will begin to emerge. Don’t feel bad if you’re unsure of your mission just yet. It can take awhile to figure out, and it can change a bit over time.
However, now is the time to start thinking along those lines. Get a head start while you are young!
When I finally was able to verbalize my own personal mission statement, it changed my life! It gave me purpose and it brought clarity into my life. Before then, I was a little bit lost. I was focused on basketball, but I didn’t know how pursuing it further would bring me the fulfillment I craved.
When I had a “Lightbulb Moment” and saw how I could use my platform of acting and basketball to share my story, suddenly the activities I loved became game changers! The thought of writing a book for teens, and going on the road to share my underdog story, both excited and scared me! BUT...I knew I was put here to do those things, and no matter what, I was going to make it happen! Sacrifices and dry stretches were aplenty, but I knew NOTHING was going to stop me.
I’ll admit it; the thought of speaking in front of thousands of people was extremely intimidating, especially talking about your struggles and mess-ups! Yet no matter how difficult, the one cool thing about finding my purpose was - the way it made the rest of my decisions easier!
Each time I was faced with a new choice, I would come back to my personal mission statement and ask myself, “Does this fall in alignment with my purpose?” If it did then I would say yes, if it didn’t, I moved on to the next thing. Realizing what I was put here to do, changed my life! It put me on a new and exciting path, a path I never expected to be on.
I’m not in the NBA like I originally planned, but I now use basketball and my own unique set of skills to travel the world and impact the lives of others...…. and I’m doing it all on my own terms! I encourage you to create your own personal mission statement.
Get a target to shoot for! I know it can change your life, just like it did mine.
1) Extremely shallow and/or temporary -OR-
2) Foundationally motivating from childhood -OR-
3) That in-between place... you are pursuing a goal over the long haul, and somewhere along the way, your focus changes and you have a new or expanded direction where you want to focus your life and energy!
That 3rd one is called or
a dream, and I will go into that later in the workbook.
The first dream is what I call It’s perfectly okay and totally appropriate for kids. They want to be a fireman, a princess, a teacher, a cop, a doctor... fill in the blank. It is always changing as they grow, and is part of their natural development. Healthy. Normal. Pretend.
The second type of dreaming can actually happen when you are a child, or any age/stage of a person’s development. It’s what I call (For some, it is actually in retirement that they have their greatest satisfaction in pursuing their interests and passions. That’s sad to me, but better late than never.)
Examples of these types of dreams are:
-Dancing ballet all through childhood, going to dance camps in the summer, and wanting to be a ballerina professionally.
-Having “play” doctor equipment as a child, looking at & loving physical anatomy books, and always being the one to bandage up your playmates. This kid always wanted to be a Doctor.
-Having a house full of animals as a child and always loving the responsibility of their care. Later, getting a weekend job on a hobby ranch. Being a Vet would be a dream come true.
-Writing stories for your grandchildren over a period of years, and finally getting them published as you pursue writing full time.
The biggest difference between the 1st type of “kids” dream, and the 2nd type of “real deal” dream, is the way a person pursues that dream. Kids give up and go on to the “next thing”, but real dreams have a life all their own.
As you work hard, learn more, get to the “next step” of growth in your passion, you develop a discipline/nurturing relationship with it, and your dream begins to seem a little more attainable.
You have done one step at a time of the work needed to succeed, and that makes the leap forward that much more possible, because of the “smaller” steps already taken.
You see yourself in training, getting better, smarter, and more accomplished.
*Check out www.brandyourself.com for practical ways to see, define, and write a focus for a mission statement that is unique for you!
What brings you deep satisfaction? Is there something you would want to pursue throughout your life? Seems like it was "made" for you to be involved in? "Lights" up your eyes?